Ask Shallon: My Crush Asked Me Out…Now What?!

Dear Shallon,

The guy I have had a HUGE crush on for months and months finally asked me out! But, now I don’t know what to do. I’ve spent so long obsessing about him and getting advice that I don’t know how to actually act or keep him as mine. Help!

–Penguin in Florida

So...like...what happens next?

My Preturbed Penguin,

This is a great question: what do you do after you get what you’ve been obsessing over?! So few of us ever actually think about that. It’s like that line from Dark Knight that the Joker says: “I’m like a dog chasing a car–what would I do if I actually caught it?”

Firstly you have to accept the fact that you probably don’t know your crush all that well. I mean you kinda do but not in that super-close BF/GF kind of way. So that is what you do now: you get to know each other! How do you do that? You hang out, spend time together and talk. But even talking can be super awkward. This video will help a LOT:

How To Get To Know Your Crush

After you guys get to know each other a little bit, you can figure out what your common interests might be. At first, you’ll probably do fairly generic things like go to the mall, get lunch, go to the movies, etc, but talking will help you discover that–ta da!–you both love shooting shotguns! Or riding horses! Or making crepes! Ok probably not making crepes but you get the idea.

And then you can bond even deeper over those mutual interests. But the important thing to remember is to goooooo slooooowwwwly. Don’t rush and think that just because you’re “going out” or “together” it has to be this super serious romance. Take things one step at a time–otherwise you miss all the fun getting-to-know-you stuff!

XO,