How To Make A Boy Like You And Ask You Out

By shallon On August 17, 2013 · Leave a Comment

Every single Ask Shallon email I get is some variation on the theme of “How can I get a boy to like me?” I am a firm believer that you can’t, really, make someone like you. Think of it in reverse–think of a boy who you IN NO WAY want to make out with. What could he possibly do to change that? Chances are, nothing. It doesn’t mean he’s ugly or gross or mean or unlovable, there just isn’t that thing.

But. Suppose that a guy is kind of interested in you. You’ve caught him looking at you, flirting, making eye contact–all those non-verbal things that say he’s interested. How do you make him really like you, and, most importantly, ask you out?

One word: accessibility.

What does that mean? Let’s break it down:

1. You’re physically accessible.

Don’t always be around your friends. Spend some time solo, preferably in the same place at the same time every day so he knows where to find you. Would you want to walk up to a whole group of dudes and ask your crush out? Noooo! Neither does he. There are few things more terrifying to a guy (of any age) than a herd of females.

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2. You’re emotionally acessible

The number one thing a guy wants in a girl? She’s “easy to be around.” NUMBER ONE. This means that you are no drama, no nagging, no constant emo feelings talks. Do you freak out when he says something you don’t like? Do you jump down his throat when you see him talk to other girls? Do you stalk his movements? A guy needs to feel like he can tell you stuff and relax –they don’t want a fiasco drama situation every day. Or, any day for that matter.

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Plus, and this is crucial, never EVER EVER nag a guy to ask you out. NEVER. People say that women are like cats, but really, boys are: you can’t pressure them to do anything. If you try to force them into something, they flee. You have to act like you totes don’t care if they ask you out/play with the cat nip you specifically bought. Don’t fall for this horseshit about “Ohhh durrr guys like it when girls take charge!” Yeah, lazy guys like that. Guys who don’t want to put themselves on the line by asking you out–they want you to take all the risk. That’s not a guy worth dating.