But I still try to make reading a priority and choose books that will enhance my [...]]]>
But I still try to make reading a priority and choose books that will enhance my life and further my agendas. So here are the books that have literally changed my life and helped me get a boyfriend. Take a look!
Being a B isn’t a bad thing anymore!
Bitch is about to be your new favorite term. When I read this I realized that I had it all backwards–I thought that I was being “nice” to guys when I was really being a spineless pushover who let guys get away with murder because I thought it’d make them like me more. After I read this and put her tips into action, the turnaround in my dating life was incredible and immediate. It is the foundation for all of the advice I give you guys!
You have an abundance!
Literally everything I’ve ever achieved in my life–from my first kiss to my book deals to my TV show–is because of what I learned in The Secret, which is to “ask, believe, receive.” As girls, we have a hard time asking for what we want–we don’t want to offend people, or rock the boat, or we feel like we don’t deserve it. The list is endless. But when you declare what you want and truly believe that you deserve to have it and that it’s possible, it’s amazing how things manifest. I know it sounds kind of hippy-dippy but trust me, this is a quick and easy read that will absolutely 100% change your life.
My favorite book ever!
What do boys really think of girls? This book tells you. Told through the eyes of teenage boys, it really shows you bafflingly complex and alluring they find us. If you feel not confident, confused and like you’ll never understand boys, read this. You’ll walk away feeling like a goddess.
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Yes, my book 
Hey, every girl needs a fun beach read, right? Almost all of the stories I allude to in my videos are chronicled in Exes and Ohs, and it’s pretty damn funny if I do say so myself. So if you think you’re awkward, pick this up and prepare to breathe a sigh of relieve over your own love life!
XO,
Shallon
]]>My crush and I kissed a few times and had an amazing time together…but then he just kind of vanished. He won’t return my texts and never wants to hang out, and I hear that he’s flirting with other girls and he’s becoming really popular. But when I see him at a party, [...]]]>
My crush and I kissed a few times and had an amazing time together…but then he just kind of vanished. He won’t return my texts and never wants to hang out, and I hear that he’s flirting with other girls and he’s becoming really popular. But when I see him at a party, he’s all excited to see me. ?!?! What’s going on?
–Rebecca
Royally Confused Rebecca,
Ugh YUCK. I hate hate hate HATE things like this, where you have this amazing awesome intense connection with someone and then POOF they just vanish and it’s like ummm hello? If we had fun why do you not want that fun to continue?!
So true.
So there’s a few different reasons why he’s gone MIA and gotten weird…
They always act soooo innocent
Learn when to let go, unlike our darling Taylor :(
harrystyles
The other day my boyfriend and said, “I like you a lot, but I see us as more of friends .” I asked if we can make our relationship work…or was this it? And he replied with, ”I think we should take a break and see how that works. I think it’s what’s [...]]]>
The other day my boyfriend and said, “I like you a lot, but I see us as more of friends .” I asked if we can make our relationship work…or was this it? And he replied with, ”I think we should take a break and see how that works. I think it’s what’s best right now .” What?! Does this mean we can eventually get back together? Or is this his crappy way of breaking up with me? Ahhh!
–Mai
Poor Mislead Mai,
Ugh, the old “let’s take a break.” BEYOND annoying because yeah, is this a break up or what? So there are two reasons why a guy may say this to you:
1) He Really Does Need A Break
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Maybe he’s having a family problems, maybe he’s super stressed, maybe his dog died and he can’t even concentrate on anything else. If there’s an actual THING that could be distracting him from your relationship, then he’s serious when he wants a break. Or, vice versa–if you’re going through something that is making you kind of a crappy GF, he may want to put a pin in the romance until you sort stuff out. BUT, he will make it very very clear that this isn’t a break up and that you guys just have some issues to work through.
What to do: make sure you seriously evaluate what is causing this break, and put a time limit on it and reduce your contact with him. If, say, you or he is too caught up with SAT studying , make a pact that you’ll cool it for 4 weeks and then revaluate the relationship.
But remember, a good, solid relationship doesn’t need breaks. If a guy truly needs to step away, he may want to hook up with other chicks and have you wait around until he’s done. Um, no.
justin
2) He’s Over It
And yes, he’s a wuss for not just telling you. The may have gone with the break line because he’s trying to spare your feelings or maybe because he really isn’t sure that he wants to be 100% done…but he wants to keep you on the hook and make sure you don’t move on until he decides. Either way, it’s a dick move.
selena
What to do: Flip the script on him–tell him that YOU think it’s best to just break up completely. Delete his number, avoid him in the halls, don’t speak one word about him to mutual friends. Basically, you call his bluff and let him know you won’t be waiting around for him to decide when and if he wants you.
In most cases, he’ll panic thinking that you’ve moved on an try to get you back, but really evaluate whether or not that’s best for you. If he can pull this move once, will he do it again? And if he doesn’t come back? Well good. You’ve made a clean break and saved your dignity, which is the most important thing post break up, because it also saves you from additional pain.
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I’m 17 and have a crush on this super popular guy at school. He’s tall, blonde, plays volleyball and is totally gorgeous. He’s my best friend’s cousin but he never says ANYTHING to me. He’s super outgoing and I’m really shy! How can I get him to notice me?
–Medina
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I’m 17 and have a crush on this super popular guy at school. He’s tall, blonde, plays volleyball and is totally gorgeous. He’s my best friend’s cousin but he never says ANYTHING to me. He’s super outgoing and I’m really shy! How can I get him to notice me?
–Medina
My dear Miss M,
It’s a pretty good bet that popular guys usually date popular girls. Why is that? Because popular girls catch their attention–that’s what makes those girls popular! They’re outgoing, fun, happy and not bad to look at, either. When they walk into a room, people notice because they want people to notice them. Their posture, the way they toss their hair, what they wear–it all adds up to them appearing confident and in control.
So, that’s what you need to become. I’m not saying that you need to try out for soccer just because the popular girls are–you still be you, just…You 2.0!
So the key to being getting his attention is to be his equal, socially. You need to be popular to so he’ll notice you. How do you become popular? Be confident! How do you do that? Watch this video
Now that you’re stuffed to the gills with confidence, let’s put it into action and become the queen bee…
If you follow all of these tips, TRUST ME, he’ll notice you. And don’t be afraid to strike up a chat with him. Asking a guy questions is a great way to kick off a convo. “So what was my BFF like as a baby? I bet she screamed all the time!” or “Hey did you already take that Chem final, was it super hard or fine?”
Guys like to feel important and asking them questions make them feel that way. So even if these tactics don’t end up getting the guy, at the end of the day you’ll have revamped your social status and infused yourself with tons of confidence. And to me, that’s better than all the blonde volleyball boys in the world 
I’m in middle school and im not the skinniest girl, but I’m definitely not fat. How can I still get my crush to like me?
–Emma
Dear Un-Emaciated Em,
Firstly, thank you for spelling “definitely” correctly. I appreciate that. Secondly: who told you guys only date the skinniest girls [...]]]>
I’m in middle school and im not the skinniest girl, but I’m definitely not fat. How can I still get my crush to like me?
–Emma
Grossness x 2
Dear Un-Emaciated Em,
Firstly, thank you for spelling “definitely” correctly. I appreciate that. Secondly: who told you guys only date the skinniest girls they can find?? Oh wait I know–the entire media told you that. But honestly, it’s not true. In fact, I don’t know a single guy–not one!–who has ever said he prefers super skinny girls. Never heard a dude say that. Need proof? How about…
Soooo NOT super thin
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Held together by Spanx and hope!
or perhaps
O000, Katniss!
See where I’m going with this? The hottest girls aren’t always the twiggiest. That being said, one key way to make your crush like you is to be attractive–there’s no point in indulging in this Glee-esque bull shit that you can be whoever you want, no matter how weird or off putting and everyone WILL love you for it! A lot of times they won’t. People like attractive things. It’s science.
Just, like, ENOUGH ALREADY Glee.
So how do you look your best even if you don’t necessarily have the body of your dreams? You dress for your shape!
Women carry body weight in different ways. Five ways, to be exact. No one is more ideal than the others but each should be dressed differently. For more on this, click here!
Let’s explore, shall we?
I'm a Beyonce--what are you?
1) Apple Shape
Kristen Cavallari is a classic apple shape, carrying her fat in her midsection. Steer clear of things that are tight through the middle or skirts that are too long. Short is best because it shows off your fit legs!
2) Pear Shape
Kim K and Lady Gaga fall into this category and should stick to things that are fitted at the waist–loose styles make you look pregnant and wide throughout!
3) Wedge Shape
Audrina Patridge is wedges. Flowy tops and tight pants are your ideal recipe since it hides fleshy arms and back fat while highlighting your thin thighs, making you look more balanced.
4.) Hour Glass Shape
That’s me, baby! And Beyonce but I’m cooler, right? Wrap dresses and skinny jeans make the most of our ass(ets).
5) Rectangle Shape
No hips, no boobs, no butt? You’re a rectangle! As are most models and petite actresses like Natalie Portman or Kate Hudson.
See? There’s no perfect type of body. And like I said, skin and bones isn’t a dude’s ideal. So work with what you have and rock it. Because the sexiest girls are the most confident.
BOOM
XOXO,
Shallon
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27 Dresses--one of my favorite on-screen love triangles!
Firstly, I”m sorry–that sucks SO BAD. I had a flawless, gorgeous BFF in high school and every single one of my crushes liked her and it was pure uncut torture.
Unfortunately, boys aren’t like the passenger seat in an F-150–you can’t call dibs. Laying claim to a boy doesn’t mean he’s going to like you back. All it means is that, hopefully, your friend isn’t going to actively pursue him or cock-block you. Can girls cock-block? You know what I mean.
Huh, I guess so!
So, you not speaking up probably wasn’t going to change the outcome of this situation anyway. For whatever reason, he likes her. And no, you shouldn’t have “gone in for the kill”–that’s a boy’s job. Not yours. And if you get used to doing so, you’re making some VERY bad habits that will not serve you well in the future. A guy who has to be chased isn’t a guy who’s truly into you.
Now, how to deal with this. I’d sit your friend down and be like “Look, I didn’t say anything but I really really liked Isaac for a long time and while I”m happy that you’re happy, it’s pretty painful for me to watch you two together. So I’m going to take a step back for a bit, just kinda do my own thing and hang with some other people and give you two—and myself–some space. No hard feelings and I’m not mad, I just need to not be around this right now.”
Tell it, Nene!
If she’s your friend, she’ll understand and hopefully tone down the PDA bc really, it’s lame and gross and embarrassing anyway. And if she doesn’t? Then fuck her and fuck him too. You need to protect yourself, not worry about a “friendship” with someone who actively makes you miserable. That’s not friendship.
XO,
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